Never in a million years did I think that I would resort to internet dating; I would just like to point out that it took me a while to come to this. There are reasons of course as there are always reasons. The first is my work hours are not really condusive to meeting new members of the opposite gender. I also have to work every second weekend (can you hear that it is the sound of my social life being flushed down the toilet). My place of employment does not allow me to met many members of the opposite gender (CORRECTION: many members of the opposite gender that are suitable as potential life partners). Although I enjoy the presence of my cats I am not really a fan of growing into an old cat lady.
So here we are and internet dating it is! It was very easy to set up a profile I just typed in my information, gathered some decent photos of myself, typed in what I was looking for in a potential mate and VOILA there I was floating around in the cyber space dating scene. In an ideal world the site would have matched me up with my soul mate and I would be floating on a cruise ship in the Mediterranean on the honeymoon of a lifetime right now. Alas life is much more humorous than that! I have been doing this now for about three months and I after weeding through the freaks, creeps, needies and just plain crazies I have been on dates with a grand total of four men:
The first guy was decent enough and we had a lovely sushi supper during which we had excellent conversation. In his profile he stated that he was looking for a woman who was "low maintaince" so considering we scheduled our date for a Wednesday evening I ran home from work threw on some comfy black trackpants, an equally comfortable but form fitting top and applied some make up. Maybe this was not what he had in mind because at the conclusion of our date he informed me he did not feel any spark with me. Hmmmmm perhaps if I had been wearing a skirt and heels a spark would have been felt. I think he might have meant "easy" when he said "low maintaince"
The second guy was a gentleman (I also took note of my last dating success and wore tight black pants, heeled boots and a nicer top) we had lunch and saw a film. We had great conversation and got along perfectly. When he dropped me off after the date I was starting to think he might be worth getting to know a little better. A week later we went for a second date for a sushi supper and again the conversation was going wonderfully..that was until he started hinting at sex...and than that is all he started talking about and hinting at. Once he dropped me off after that date the text messages started asking me when I wanted to come to his place to "watch a film" or "view his artwork". I think he got the hint after the 10th time I did not respond to them. Desperation is not sexy.
The third guy took me to a fabulous Italian resturaunt and we had great conversation; I was beginning once again to feel hopeful. He dropped me off after the date and told me he would love to see me again but he does not call women. Okay, so do you ESP message them?...how does one arrainge a date without calling? (oh I should also mention I do not chase men...for the first few dates I think they should call..maybe I am weird?). I always figure if I am worth it you will call.
The fourth guy was the WORST date I have ever been on. I was originally attracted to him because of his sarcasm. I was even willing to ignore the fact when I was chatting with him on the phone he gave me a huge "I am really into men but have not come out of the closet yet" vibe. So, he took me to see a film (Saw 3D...yeah that is right..no typio there). The big surprise came when we got to the counter to pay and he held out his hand and said after you (what a gentleman; ladies first!). Okay, so I am not a gold digger and I have no problem holding my own when it comes to paying for things BUT if you invite me out to see a film you have choosen..open up your wallet and let the sun shine in. Needless to say COMPLETELY TURNED OFF! it all went downhill from there. What little tolerance I had for him went to zero when he leaned in to tell me that the actress in the film looked good on all fours...real classy! That ended in a "never call me".
These experiences have not discouraged me in fact they have made me realize dating requires a great sense of humor. So bring on the laughs and maybe they will carry with them Mr. Right
Wow! The last date had me laughing. Who takes a first date to Saw 3D AND doesn't pay? He should have bought your ticket and given you money to see that.
ReplyDeleteIn regards to the 2nd man, I don't think he'd expect you to put out if you went over to watch a movie or whatever - just make the ground rules clear before you go :) All guys are desperate for sex.